If You’ve Tried Everything and Still Struggle- This Is Why

Hey bestie — If you’ve ever sighed, “I’ve tried everything — therapy, diets, tracking, coaching, intuitive eating — and nothing sticks… what’s wrong with me?” take a deep breath.

Nothing is wrong with you.
You’re not unmotivated, too far gone, or the exception.
You’re exhausted from running on a treadmill that never takes you anywhere.

Today we’ll name why the usual approaches haven’t worked long-term — and what you actually need instead.

Why the Things You Tried “Worked”… Until They Didn’t

Plenty of tools can bring short-term relief — but most focus on controlling food or fixing symptoms, not healing the roots.

  • Diets: “Work” only while you can white-knuckle them. When restriction backfires, the cycle returns.

  • General therapy: Powerful, but most clinicians don’t specialise in disordered eating or nervous-system work.

  • Tracking/data: Numbers give information, not peace.

  • Intuitive eating: Incredible — but hard to implement if your nervous system is dysregulated, you’re still secretly afraid of food, or you treat IE like a new diet with nicer branding.

If you don’t address the roots — restriction, dysregulation, body shame, and safety — you’re rearranging furniture in a burning house.

The Real Roots You’ve Been Missing

  • Restriction (physical and mental): Smaller portions than you need, skipping meals “to make up,” carb-policing, food rules — all tell your body food isn’t safe → survival mode → binge.

  • Emotional dysregulation: Stress, loneliness, overwhelm. Food becomes the fastest-acting soothing strategy.

  • Internalised body shame: If worth = smaller body, every fluctuation triggers panic and recommitment to control.

  • Nervous-system patterns: When your body doesn’t feel safe, rules feel safer than attunement. Safety must come first.

My Story (and the Lesson I Learned the Hard Way)

I believed I could fix binge eating by “finally getting my body under control.” I dieted, restricted, and lived in self-hate. I was diagnosed with BED. Eventually, I chose gastric sleeve surgery. I was promised freedom at a goal weight.

But weight loss surgery doesn’t come with:

  • Emotional regulation tools

  • A calmer nervous system

  • Body trust

I got smaller — and more scared. I feared regain. I tightened rules. The binge cycle returned because the roots were untouched. That’s when I learned: you can’t diet or shrink your way to food freedom. You have to heal.

What Actually Works (The Whole Puzzle)

You need all the pieces — not just behaviour change.

  1. Nourishment & Rhythm
    Stabilise eating so your body stops panicking: consistent meals/snacks, carbs + protein + fat + satisfaction.

  2. Nervous-System Safety
    Daily micro-regulation: breathwork, sunlight, walks, music, earlier bedtimes, boundaries with triggers (scale, feeds, “goal jeans”).

  3. Mindset Rewiring
    Retire “good/bad” food labels, defuse diet-culture thoughts, build body neutrality and self-compassion.

  4. Support That Gets It
    Guidance from someone trained in disordered eating and the messy, lived reality — plus a community that practises grace over perfection.

Quick Self-Check: Are You in the “Fix the Symptom” Loop?

  • “I’ll be ‘good’ tomorrow” after a binge

  • Swapping one plan for another every few weeks

  • Doing IE with secret weight-loss conditions

  • Collecting data (calories, macros, steps) but not feeling calmer

  • Shame spirals after totally human wobble days

If you nodded along, you don’t need to try harder — you need a different map.

Inside The Break Up: Where We Do the Real Work

This program was built for the smart, self-aware woman who’s “tried everything” and is so ready for this to be the last restart.

You’ll learn how to:

  • Stabilise your eating so your body no longer panics

  • Identify and defuse triggers without white-knuckling

  • Rebuild body trust & neutrality (so worth ≠ weight)

  • Rewire stuck habits driving the binge–restrict cycle

What you get:

  • 8 expert-led video modules (therapist-designed, step-by-step)

  • The Break Up Workbook to make change stick

  • Meet Belle — your 24/7 AI support coach: Belle is your pocket companion inside the program: daily check-ins, post-binge rescue prompts, craving/coping flowcharts, “what to eat now” stabilisers, and gentle mindset reframes — available anytime you need a nudge between modules. (Not therapy, but oh-so helpful.)

  • Lifetime access to revisit whenever you need

  • Private Binge Free Besties community for support and accountability

  • $1,500+ in bonuses: Binge First-Aid Toolkit, Nervous System & Mindfulness Library, Food Freedom Recipe Vault, Private Podcast, Body-Positive Affirmation Deck

You are not too broken. You are not too late. You’re just ready for the whole solution.

If your chest said “yes” while you read this, trust her. She knows.

Take care,


Nicole 💜